Author: Roshaunda D. Cade, Ph.D.

  • Why do I have so many chins?

    Why do I have so many chins?

    I am part of a writing group that meets on Zoom. We all live in different states, so our regular Zoom meetings are a great way to keep in touch, encourage each other, and get some writing done.

    The other day, after we had set the timer for our writing, I found myself not writing. I didn’t have anything to say about anything. I looked at my friends writing and being productive, and I looked at myself on screen and noticed that I have a bunch of chins. So I wrote about it. I ended up writing a poem.

    Why Do I Have So Many Chins

    Why do I have so many chins, so many chins, so many chins? Why do I have so many chins? It’s a sign of a life well-lived.

    I’ve birthed babies and businesses and read some good books.

    In my younger days I got too many looks

    I’ve lounged and I’ve lazed

    and frittered and wasted

    I can’t even count all the pies I have tasted

    I’ve loved and I’ve climbed

    I’ve been rich; I’ve been broke

    I never, not once, have taken a smoke

    I’ve sat by the bedsides of my sick children and dying mom

    I’ve taught and I’ve learned and got stood up at prom

    I’ve sung and I’ve danced

    I’ve even trapezed

    I once got stopped by Austrian police.

    I’ve cried and comforted

    Been torn down and built up

    And in everything, God fills up my cup

    Why do I have so many chins, so many chins, so many chins? Why do I have so many chins? It’s a sign of a life well-lived.

  • No Sound

    No Sound

    Y’all. My last 2 recorded readings didn’t have sound. I don’t know why. I’m not doing anything differently than I have in the past. I’m looking into it.

    I just wanted to update you, in case you were wondering what is going on with the lapse in readings.

    Have no fear, I have more 19th Century literature by and about black people for you. Satan is just trying to hold a sistah back, and we are having none of that.

    Until next time.

  • Pocket Coaching

    Pocket Coaching

    As I’m a certified life coach, it comes a surprise to no one that I’ve worked long-term with a life coach. I may be biased, but I believe everyone needs someone they can talk out their quandaries with and set a plot forward for growth and momentum.

    I loved our biweekly Zoom calls, but what I didn’t love was the time between the calls. Now, for full disclosure, my ride-or-die life coach let me email him between sessions, and I did just that on occasion. But I didn’t want to overstep. Time is valuable, and I didn’t feel good encroaching on his time without compensating him for it.

    So during those in between times, I tried to remember questions I wanted to ask in our next session. I thought about prioritizing them, even, but mostly I just forgot.

    Sometimes during those in between times I needed a word of encouragement or some help brainstorming an idea. Sometimes I got what I needed in other ways; sometimes I floundered.

    Also during those in between times I struggled to hold myself accountable to what I said I would do.

    To be direct, life coaching is not about enabling or becoming a crutch for people, so I had my own work to do during those in between times. And I did it. Not always elegantly, but progress and growth happened.

    But I wondered what it would be like if I could just have a coach in my back pocket whenever I wanted to reach out – not necessarily for a long-term commitment.

    Then I wondered what it would be like, as an overwhelmed educator, and as a woman, and as a black woman, and as a woman who is now of a certain age, and as a wife, and as a mom, and as a writer, to have someone who looked like me and could relate to my multifaceted day-to-day life just hanging out in my back pocket whenever I was ready to reach out.

    And I thought that would be really cool.

    So I would like to be that for you.

    Pocket Coaching is 30 days of unlimited email coaching that allows you to reach out in your own way and in your own time. Maybe you need some ideas for practicing self-care. Maybe you’re working on a piece of writing and need an extra set of eyes. Maybe you’d like to rewrite your life story. Maybe you’d like some book suggestions for current challenges and changes in your life. Maybe you need some daily devotionals. Maybe you need a word of encouragement.

    Think of Pocket Coaching as in-the-moment support, like what we provide to our students and colleagues every single day.

    Except now it’s for you.

    30 days of Pocket Coaching just might change your life. Sign up at the link below.

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