Tag: real and raw

  • Cultural Custodian

    Cultural Custodian

    Hello!

    How are you? I pray you’re well.

    I’m doing fine and dandy, thank you very much.

    Last time I wrote, I mentioned I’ve come to consider myself a cultural custodian for black women, and I promised I’d elaborate on that idea.

    Lately I’ve pondered a lot about my career, and what I love to do, and what I love to read, and who I like to serve, and so many things pointed to black women. I’m a black woman, and I love that. I love my skin and my hair and my culture. I’ve even learned to love things like having to work harder for half as much and consistently being underestimated when I walk into a room. I don’t love that those things are reality; rather, I love that through them I’ve learned strength and compassion.

    I seek out and surround myself with black women. I read books by and about black women, particularly historical black women. I care about what concerns us. And through LELA House, I find my work connects to protecting our hearts, expanding our joy, and highlighting our voices.

    All of this led me to consider myself a cultural custodian of black women. Obviously I looked up many definitions and connotations of cultural, custodian, and cultural custodian. Who would I be if I didn’t look up definitions? 🙂

    Many definitions included the ideas of preserving, maintaining, safeguarding, and promoting the traditions, practices, values, and narratives of a culture. I find all of those ideas valuable and accurate as they relate to my work at LELA House. Through book coaching, writing coaching, and self-care services, I do, indeed, strive to preserve, maintain, safeguard, and promote the traditions, practices, values, and narratives of black women. One definition of cultural custodian, from “The Custodian: Introduction: The Custodian and the Significance of Art Preservation” in the November 13, 2023 issue of Selections Magazine, added some nuance that particularly struck a chord with me.

    “In the world of art, the custodian plays a pivotal role in the protection, curation, and promotion of artworks and collections. Whether an individual or an institution, custodians shoulder the responsibility of ensuring that these artistic expressions remain intact for future generations. Their role extends beyond mere preservation; it encompasses a commitment to making art accessible, fostering an understanding of its historical and cultural context, and supporting the broader appreciation of artistic endeavors.”

    Resonating the most with me is the idea of black women ourselves, not solely the creative works we produce, as art. My take on the quotation becomes the following.

    In the world of black women as masterpieces, the custodian plays a pivotal role in the protection, curation, and promotion of individual black women and us as a collective. Whether an individual or an institution, custodians shoulder the responsibility of ensuring that black women’s narratives remain intact for future generations. Their role extends beyond mere preservation; it encompasses a commitment to making black women’s stories accessible, fostering an understanding of their historical and cultural context, and supporting the broader appreciation of black women, our experiences, and our creative expression.

    And yes, that is work I want to do.

    Why do I care so much about our stories from the long US 19th Century and supporting those who tell them? Because mere preservation isn’t enough; our stories must be accessible to foster an understanding of our historical and cultural context. Why do I care about our stories from other historical eras and supporting those who share them? Because our narratives must remain intact for future generations. Why do I care about our joy and well-being and supporting black women as we incorporate these things into our lives? Because we must support the broader appreciation of black women, our experiences, and our creative expression. Why do I consider myself a cultural custodian for black women? Because we are masterpieces who must be protected and promoted as individuals and as a collective, and God created me to serve in that role.

    God has been leading me to work as a cultural custodian for black women for my entire life. From my high school acts of civil disobedience to pledging my sorority to adventuring with my mother, to being outraged at discrimination in a library, I’ve spent 30+ years serving as a cultural custodian for black women without knowing that was what I was doing.

    But I know now. Let’s see where God will take me.

    Until next time!

  • Release Control

    Release Control

    Here’s the good news: God has a plan for your life.

    Here’s the bad news: God’s plan for you life will most likely not operate on your schedule.

    You can control many things in your life – how much water you drink, how much exercise you get, how often you pray, etc.

    You cannot control many other things in your life – how someone will respond to you, how the person in the next lane drives, how much bread costs, etc.

    Today, I invite you to write about how you can release control of the things you can’t control. The sooner you learn to do that, the easier it will be to enjoy your lifelong ride with God.

  • What Do You Need?

    What Do You Need?

    What do you need to live your best, fullest, most authentic life? What are your non-negotiables? Family time? Daily naps? Books? Exercise? Morning coffee?

    Whatever it is you need to be your best, write those things down. That’s the first step of today’s writing prompt.

    The second step is to write what’s keeping you from having those things (in abundance) in your life.

    The third step is to write down one small tweak you can make to your day to ensure you have more opportunity for those things. This may mean getting rid of things that are good to make room for things that are great. And that’s just fine. You deserve it.

  • Beautiful Brokenness

    Beautiful Brokenness

    We had storms in our area a week ago that left trees decimated. Everywhere you look – trees uprooted, branches strewn in power lines, conglomerations of limbs laying in yards and streets.

    And it’s so beautiful.

    Each tree has a new chapter to its story. A new way to differentiate itself from the other trees. A new way to display its inner beauty to a world that never would have seen it, if not for the destruction. New scars out of which will grow new branches. Or not. Maybe the scars themselves won’t have any new growth, but the flesh surrounding the scars will.

    So when you look at yourself and see brokenness, don’t discount it, but see the beauty in it, too.

    You’re writing a new chapter. You’re differentiating yourself from the crowd. You’re displaying your inner beauty. You’re growing through your scars.

    And it’s so beautiful.

  • Your Best Self

    Your Best Self

    Becoming your best self is a bold and scary move, but it all begins with a decision – a decision to unabashedly show up in the fullness of how God created you.

    That decision to show up is difficult to make. It’s easier to be constrained by what has always been. It’s easier to leave your light hidden rather than let it shine. I know; I’ve often taken the easy road.

    But today we will walk together in a small step that will lead each of us to becoming our best selves. I’ll hold your hand, and you’ll hold mine.

    My step today is to recognize that although I may be differently qualified, that doesn’t mean I’m not qualified.

    What’s your small step today? Write it down then live it out. That’s your journaling prompt for today.