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  • Cultural Custodian

    Cultural Custodian

    Hello!

    How are you? I pray you’re well.

    I’m doing fine and dandy, thank you very much.

    Last time I wrote, I mentioned I’ve come to consider myself a cultural custodian for black women, and I promised I’d elaborate on that idea.

    Lately I’ve pondered a lot about my career, and what I love to do, and what I love to read, and who I like to serve, and so many things pointed to black women. I’m a black woman, and I love that. I love my skin and my hair and my culture. I’ve even learned to love things like having to work harder for half as much and consistently being underestimated when I walk into a room. I don’t love that those things are reality; rather, I love that through them I’ve learned strength and compassion.

    I seek out and surround myself with black women. I read books by and about black women, particularly historical black women. I care about what concerns us. And through LELA House, I find my work connects to protecting our hearts, expanding our joy, and highlighting our voices.

    All of this led me to consider myself a cultural custodian of black women. Obviously I looked up many definitions and connotations of cultural, custodian, and cultural custodian. Who would I be if I didn’t look up definitions? 🙂

    Many definitions included the ideas of preserving, maintaining, safeguarding, and promoting the traditions, practices, values, and narratives of a culture. I find all of those ideas valuable and accurate as they relate to my work at LELA House. Through book coaching, writing coaching, and self-care services, I do, indeed, strive to preserve, maintain, safeguard, and promote the traditions, practices, values, and narratives of black women. One definition of cultural custodian, from “The Custodian: Introduction: The Custodian and the Significance of Art Preservation” in the November 13, 2023 issue of Selections Magazine, added some nuance that particularly struck a chord with me.

    “In the world of art, the custodian plays a pivotal role in the protection, curation, and promotion of artworks and collections. Whether an individual or an institution, custodians shoulder the responsibility of ensuring that these artistic expressions remain intact for future generations. Their role extends beyond mere preservation; it encompasses a commitment to making art accessible, fostering an understanding of its historical and cultural context, and supporting the broader appreciation of artistic endeavors.”

    Resonating the most with me is the idea of black women ourselves, not solely the creative works we produce, as art. My take on the quotation becomes the following.

    In the world of black women as masterpieces, the custodian plays a pivotal role in the protection, curation, and promotion of individual black women and us as a collective. Whether an individual or an institution, custodians shoulder the responsibility of ensuring that black women’s narratives remain intact for future generations. Their role extends beyond mere preservation; it encompasses a commitment to making black women’s stories accessible, fostering an understanding of their historical and cultural context, and supporting the broader appreciation of black women, our experiences, and our creative expression.

    And yes, that is work I want to do.

    Why do I care so much about our stories from the long US 19th Century and supporting those who tell them? Because mere preservation isn’t enough; our stories must be accessible to foster an understanding of our historical and cultural context. Why do I care about our stories from other historical eras and supporting those who share them? Because our narratives must remain intact for future generations. Why do I care about our joy and well-being and supporting black women as we incorporate these things into our lives? Because we must support the broader appreciation of black women, our experiences, and our creative expression. Why do I consider myself a cultural custodian for black women? Because we are masterpieces who must be protected and promoted as individuals and as a collective, and God created me to serve in that role.

    God has been leading me to work as a cultural custodian for black women for my entire life. From my high school acts of civil disobedience to pledging my sorority to adventuring with my mother, to being outraged at discrimination in a library, I’ve spent 30+ years serving as a cultural custodian for black women without knowing that was what I was doing.

    But I know now. Let’s see where God will take me.

    Until next time!

  • Pocket Coaching

    Pocket Coaching

    As I’m a certified life coach, it comes a surprise to no one that I’ve worked long-term with a life coach. I may be biased, but I believe everyone needs someone they can talk out their quandaries with and set a plot forward for growth and momentum.

    I loved our biweekly Zoom calls, but what I didn’t love was the time between the calls. Now, for full disclosure, my ride-or-die life coach let me email him between sessions, and I did just that on occasion. But I didn’t want to overstep. Time is valuable, and I didn’t feel good encroaching on his time without compensating him for it.

    So during those in between times, I tried to remember questions I wanted to ask in our next session. I thought about prioritizing them, even, but mostly I just forgot.

    Sometimes during those in between times I needed a word of encouragement or some help brainstorming an idea. Sometimes I got what I needed in other ways; sometimes I floundered.

    Also during those in between times I struggled to hold myself accountable to what I said I would do.

    To be direct, life coaching is not about enabling or becoming a crutch for people, so I had my own work to do during those in between times. And I did it. Not always elegantly, but progress and growth happened.

    But I wondered what it would be like if I could just have a coach in my back pocket whenever I wanted to reach out – not necessarily for a long-term commitment.

    Then I wondered what it would be like, as an overwhelmed educator, and as a woman, and as a black woman, and as a woman who is now of a certain age, and as a wife, and as a mom, and as a writer, to have someone who looked like me and could relate to my multifaceted day-to-day life just hanging out in my back pocket whenever I was ready to reach out.

    And I thought that would be really cool.

    So I would like to be that for you.

    Pocket Coaching is 30 days of unlimited email coaching that allows you to reach out in your own way and in your own time. Maybe you need some ideas for practicing self-care. Maybe you’re working on a piece of writing and need an extra set of eyes. Maybe you’d like to rewrite your life story. Maybe you’d like some book suggestions for current challenges and changes in your life. Maybe you need some daily devotionals. Maybe you need a word of encouragement.

    Think of Pocket Coaching as in-the-moment support, like what we provide to our students and colleagues every single day.

    Except now it’s for you.

    30 days of Pocket Coaching just might change your life. Sign up at the link below.

    https://www.coachaccountable.com/offering/PYClF7cExmOmKXWrAuees4F7cUwRZsU

  • New Year, New LELA House

    New Year, New LELA House

    Greetings!

    I promised you some new LELA House offerings for the new year, and I have a bunch to share with you.

    If you’re an educator feeling burned out or looking for a way to accomplish your goals or just in need of some long overdue self-care, then LELA House is for you. Imagine who you can become by investing in yourself.

    Read on to access all the information you need. To be sure to stay up-to-date with LELA House, please subscribe to receive emails from me. When you subscribe, you will receive a link to a downloadable PDF of 140 journaling prompts to jumpstart your self-care journey.

    Short Version

    You can learn about all of my offerings on my website. You can subscribe to my email list and receive a free PDF of journal prompts. You can even purchase services. Check it out at the link below. Feel free to stop reading here.

    lela-house.com 

    Long Version

    I offer services to individuals and institutions. I believe each educator owes self-care to themselves, and I also believe the institutions where we serve must invest in the well-being of their educators. I’m here to help with both.

    • Individual Experiences
      • Breakthrough Session – This is a free 30-minute coaching session to see if LELA House is for you.
      • Email Coaching – This is 30 consecutive days of email coaching. You can email me as much as you like, and I will reply up to 3x per week. We can discuss any areas of your life where you desire transformation.
      • IDEA (Innovate, Dream, Energize, Activate) Coaching – This is a one-time coaching session where we meet to help you break through in one particular area where you are feeling stuck.
      • Confident & Courageous Coaching – This is 3 months of biweekly coaching sessions where you discover the confidence and courage to explore limiting beliefs that hold you back from being who God created you to be and develop the mindsets and habits to make and sustain powerful change in your life. 
      • Self-Care Sundays – On the third Sunday of each month, educators meet to devote time to reading, writing, creating, or Christian meditation.
    • Learn more about 1:1  individual experiences by clicking here.
    • Learn more about Self-Care Sundays by clicking here.
    • Experiences for Institutions
      • Community Writing Workshops – Participants explore topics salient to your institution through writing and reflection (75 minutes).
      • Values Workshops – Participants determine their values and how to activate them in daily decision-making. This workshop uses writing, reflection, and connection and can be useful to determine individual values or collective values (ie: of a department) (75 minutes).
      • Powerful Question Workshops – Participants break down and respond to a question about your institution’s impact and future. Then participants support each other in plotting a course forward. This workshop uses writing, reflection, and small and large group work (90 minutes).
      • Common Reading Sessions – Help your educators learn together by offering common book studies (60 minute sessions).
      • Executive Coaching – Provide ongoing executive coaching to your educators (45-60 minutes per session).
    • To learn more about the experiences for institutions, click to fill out the contact form.

    Lastly, since I’m a writing person at my core, I’m also available to work with you on grant proposals, ongoing grant write-ups, reviewing articles for submission, and other sorts of writing contract work. If you’re interested in that, please email me, and we will set up a conversation to discuss collaboration possibilities.

    Thank you for your interest in LELA House and for supporting me. It means the world to me. 

    Please share this post with anyone you believe would be interested in and benefit from LELA House services.

    Oh! Also, if you’re interested, I’m challenging myself to write more and to publish what I write. Please check out my Patreon page at the link below. When you land there, you’ll be able to read the first chapter of a novel I’m working on that tells the story of the fall of Jericho from the perspective of Rahab. If you like what you read, please consider becoming a patron.

    patreon.com/RoshaundaCade

    And for making it all the way to the end of this post, you get a bonus!

    I’ve curated some of my favorite blog posts, which you can find at the link below. I hope you enjoy them!

    Curated Blog Posts

    Ok, I’m done now. 😀

    Have an amazing day!

  • I Gave Float Therapy a Try

    I Gave Float Therapy a Try

    I tried float therapy. I liked it. If you want to learn more about my experience, please check out my video.

  • Get enough rest

    Get enough rest

    You need more rest. You deserve more rest. You are already amazing; imagine the version of yourself you would be with more rest.

    Write about the well-rested version of yourself. What are you up to?